Blog Archive

Life Decisions - What Is The Best Approach?

Life decisions can change a life for better or for worse. When you look back on your life, the art is knowing the choices you made; were not made with emotional desires but with a meticulous thought process.

To be human is to be subject to periods in life that cause contemplation of certain decisions that can alter a comfortable lifestyle, safety zone, or complacent status and give a person uneasiness of making those final plans.

If you have not been in this situation; you may not have an answer to the above question but, somehow I doubt that there are many people who have not been in this situation at some point in their life. Life sometimes gets very complicated. Often the complicated is brought on without thoughtful, and inappropriate decisions. Those that we sometimes look back upon, and screech.

Life Decisions That Can Alter One's Life Forever

Normally, those life decisions that involve our family are the toughest. It may be a new job living in another location, too far to commute. It means the children having to leave their school and friends, but it is something you feel is necessary for financial security reasons.
The worst decisions can be those involving a separation or divorce. These decisions can be real life threatening; especially for a wife or mother who has not had the responsibility of managing their own financial support. 
Any decision in life that can alter your present and future state of well-being is of great importance and study. It can be for the better seemingly, for a while, but for the long haul; it can be for the worse. It is learning when to let something go and when to proceed. Too often, there is no thought process to the life threatening decisions in life. Most of the time those things when can harm us the most; we know in the very beginning we should not do it. Some examples include Infidelity, drugs, alcohol, stealing, abuse, cheating on exams, bullying, lying, and so much more. Yes, some adults bully also.
A person becomes addicted to something because it felt good the first time; then the second, and without a thought process; no more counting. Boom; they are hooked. We are vulnerable to something that gives us an emotional high. It feels good so why not try it again.   

Some Decisions Are About Being Wise
  • Or Being Unwise

Decisions in life come in all shapes and sizes; some are really delicate, some are not life threatening, but require a thought process, such as these:
  • Should you tell the boss that Charlie is goofing off for 7.5 hours every day.  
  • Should you get involved in a work conversation about the boss.    
  • Should you buy a new car; when the one you have is in great conditions, but two years old.
  • Should you tell your young adult child to move out because he/she does not live by the household rules?
  • Should you tell your best friend to get a life; she/he is coming to your house every day? 
  • Your married child is having marital problems; should you step in? 
  • You want to buy a new home; your spouse is happy where you are; should you keep insisting?
Some of the above questions have quite simple answers; at least for anyone with common sense (not being disrespectful). Meaning the second question above, it would never be a good thing that could come from getting involved in a conversation about the boss..

Some Questions That Should be Answered
There are work related decisions that cause us to wonder if we should move on, or stay where we have gained recognition from superiors with a higher level of authority, friends, and feel a sense of establishment. It is not every day that you feel a sense of accomplishment with a career or job, and when leaving a comfort zone; the questions in the mind start to flow. who can know what lies ahead? Yet, the new job offer is a higher climb on the ladder and considerably more salary. 
All of these are very stressful, daunting, and hard decisions. Often with seemingly no answer that seems good for everyone involved.
What is The Best Approach?

Ask yourself some questions like these:
  • Should you even be asking yourself these hard questions?
  • Do you already know the answer?
  • Do you have to make this decision, or is this just a sudden impulse?
  • Will your decision be what is best for all involved?
  • Can you conquer this with a temporary solution?
  • Is this decision a change for the better?
  • Will this alter your present state of comfort and be a blessing, or will it be a formidable action?
  • Have you brought this difficult decision to life with your own inappropriate decisions?
  • Have you considered the long-term consequences for yourself and the people you love?
  • The answers are yours and yours alone.   
Then after you have answered the above questions; here are some that questions which are often a little more difficult to answer. Why? Because this is where the truth really lies, we must fully examine our motives.
  • Are you searching for something that is not attainable?
  • Are you happy or do you even know what would make you happy?
  • Are you being selfish?
  • Are you being careless?
  • Are you being preyed upon by a needy person, and not looking at protecting your own sense of security?
  • Are you acting with knowledge and wisdom?
  • Will your decision bring peace and contentment or frustration and destruction?
  • Are you sure that you about much of anything in your life?

Make Yourself a Priority List
Make yourself a list of priorities in your life. 
  • Who is most important in your life?
  • What is most important in your life?
  • What is the worst that will happen if this is not the right decision?
  • Will the sacrifice of letting go of your desires for someone who is important to you, be worth it?
  • Look at your answers, and for the most part, you probably have your decision at least cornered in the right direction.

Make Life Good -Quote

“Whatever peace you have in your life; try expanding it”

No comments: