If you or someone you love has an Anger Management issue, please keep reading.
Anger management is a very necessary life skill that everyone must learn. Some people have more problems controlling their anger than others. While anger is a normal and healthy human emotion, it is important that to find positive ways to deal with anger. If this is an issue with you, then these ten tips to help with anger management are recommended as a self-help solution.
1. Stop and think before you speak. To avoid hurt feelings, which can lead to anger, stop and think about what you want to say. Do not just blurt out the first thing that comes to mind. Collect your thoughts and allow others to do the same. Be aware of the tone of voice you use. This too can have a direct impact on how well others receive what you say.
2. Wait until you have calmed down. Being calm allows you to express how you are feeling in a more straightforward and assertive way. State your concerns clearly and directly without hurting others or trying to control them.
3. Start a regular workout regimen. Stress leads to anger quickly. Help get some of that pent up anger out by taking a brisk walk or enjoying some other physical activity.
4. Just, walk away. Time out is not just for kids. We all need a break to get our thoughts in check and gain new perspective on a situation. Remove yourself from the situation and come back to it later.
5. Problem solving - Focus your energy on finding a solution rather than continuing to be mad about the issue. Are you always running late? Create a schedule for you and your family. Push dinnertime back 30 minutes to give yourself some breathing room. Yelling is not going to change these situations, but maybe a little compromise will.
6. Choose your words carefully. Speaking in “I” statements will help keep tensions from flaring. Say something like, “I feel angry when you don’t put your dirty clothes in the hamper.” This way you avoid criticizing and placing blame.
7. Forgive and forget. Sometimes you just have to let things go. Allowing yourself to be angry more than usual, can lead to bitterness and feelings of injustice. Humans are imperfect, but knowing we need to change is essential. In addition, it is unrealistic to expect everyone to act and do exactly what we want at all times. Being able to forgive will lift a huge weight off your shoulders.
8. Laugh at yourself. Sometimes, you have to use a little humor to make light of a situation. It is easier to let things roll off your back when you can find some humor in a situation. Even if you cannot find humor in it, there is oftentimes a positive side to the situation. You just have to look for it.
9. Practice relaxation. Tips like counting to ten or deep breathing may seem overly simple but they work well. Take up yoga, keep a journal, or choose something else that helps you relax. Practice it every day. The more relaxed you are overall, the less you will sweat the small stuff.
10. Ask for help. While anger is a normal human emotion, it is not healthy when experienced often or on going. When you feel an overwhelming or long-lasting anger, or when you experience anger on a daily basis, it is time to reach out for help. There is nothing shameful about asking for help. Shame comes from not asking when you know you need it.
Staying positive even in times of anger is important to your personal and professional relationships. Following these ten tips will help you stay in control and happy.
Professionals note that frequent anger may have an underlying cause. If a person is normally quiet, soft spoken and contained, then something else may be bothering them. It could be an old issue or grievance that has come back to haunt. This can cause one to have apprehension and pain, while becoming short tempered.
Advice here is, if you cannot handle your anger management problem with your own self-help research, you would need to find a professional. They can, and will asks the right questions, and find the right answers.
I hope this helps, and good luck!