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Life Coach- Do you Fear

Life Coach- Do You Fear? 
What do you Fear?  Do you fear being betrayed? Are you afraid to be yourself? Do you fear doing good for another human, and then being stabbed in the back? Do you fear life as a whole?

Living in fear, is not living. It means you are dead to the happiness that is yours and yours alone. If you allow yourself to let someone else bring fear in your life, then that person has power over you. Never, never let fear compromise a life worth living with fear.

Be yourself, give to others, blend in where possible, never let someone else disturb your peace of mind. People will disappoint you, please will fail you, people will try to push you down, they have the problem, not you. Let fear take a leap, and start today over with more faith and less fear.

This story relates to something important we need to realize.. it starts, like this:  "I remember getting a young lady a really nice raise, she was working under my watch and I liked her aggressiveness and thought she had potential.  She seemed to have the qualities of making an excellent employee. Lo and behold, she began to spy on me trying to get something on me to get me fired, because someone had asked her to.  She was not the only villain but that is another story. I am trying, this person said, to put this behind me but it seems that every time I am trying to help someone, it back fires."

It is easy to be afraid because there are times that the good things we try to do will turns out to be the things that just cause us more problems.  We get an unjust reward for trying to do good things. Injustices like this cannot be your excuse for not moving forward, if they do, you are leaning on fear that it might happen again.  This is why there is Life Coaching to help you with your fears.

Sometimes it takes a bolt of lightening to make us move and then we move, regardless of the fear.  Fear can prevent progress and our future happiness.  It can make us leery of our shadow and fear of making sure we do not pet the cat again.  We can't judge tomorrow by today even if we did get bit in the rear so to speak.  If we did something that was good and right at the moment, we did not fail...the other human did.  Other people will disappoint us..those are facts that will never go away but;

 "We should never disappoint ourselves and this is what we discover in Life Coaching and getting rid of the fear."

There are risk involved in anything we do but there are risk to our happiness and well being if we do nothing because of fear.  We fear the unknown, we fear the future, we fear we will make mistakes, we fear "it" won't last, we fear we will get hurt, we fear criticism, failure and rejection.  If one stops to think about the fear they would never proceed to do what it takes to live life.   Rejection is the number one fear.  Why? Because we measure the results of our efforts in terms of whether we are accepted or rejected.   We are going to fail at some point and at something before we die.  That is life and it is evident.  If we did not have failure, how would be learn what works and what does not? 

"Every time we choose safety, we reinforce fear."  Cheri Huber

"As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.  As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others."  Marianne Williamson

"Nothing in life is to be feared; it is to be understood."  Marie Curie

"I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear;  knowing what must be done does away with fear."  Rosa Parks

Clearly making a decision gives one a sign of relief because the biggest job was deciding to do it.  Most of the time when we decide to do something, we already know if we are equipped to do it and that is why as in the last quote, the fear is gone with the work in process. 

Fear can paralyze, cripple and endanger our lives more than what could happen to us.  If we stop living because of fear; we are saying we have no right to me.

We must stop leaning on fear- we learn from our Life Coach - That Fear is only temporary if we choose it to be.

Linda Todd

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